Hello all.
As I write this im currently 37 + 4, and I need your advice! let me explain. I'm the oldest, and only girl in the family. For the past 4 years, I've always told my mother that I never intended to have children, and didn't want children. Of course that all changed when I met my partner. My partner's family, while overjoyed, have been pretty laid back about the whole thing. This is the first grandchild for my mum, and partners parents, so I can understand that they are eager to meet the little man when he finaly gets here. But it's my mum that is driving me up the wall!
Since the start of september, almost every day, via Facebook, text message, msn, you name it, I constantly get asked "had any pains yet? Getting any pains yet?" Almost always preceeding any kind of "hello, how are you?" It's gotten to the point where I've had to tell mum off for constantly asking. It stopped for about a week after i did that, then sunday night, she was telling my partner to make me eat/drink/do this that and the other to bring the labour on. As I told my partner, I'm not doing anything of the sort, and she can wait till little man decides he's good and ready to arrive.
Thing is, (and I'm aware this may come off a little selfish here, and I'm probably just ranting, but oh well) If it wasn't for the fact I'm having her grandchild, she wouldn't actually be that bothered. I moved out of home about 2/3 years ago, at first living with a friend and he parents. (i'd moved in to a hotel where i was working at the time, the hotel shut and i ended up on mum's sofa) and for the last year and a half in my own place. My mum never comes to see me, except on her birthday, and once because she happened to be in the area. My friends house was literally a minutes walk away from one of mum's friends and mum never once came to see me there. If i want to see my mum, I have to go up to hers.
What's concerning me the most is this. Once the baby gets here, I'm pretty sure the visits will suddenly start getting more and more frequent. And that upsets me, because I know its just because of the baby that she will be visiting, not coming to see her daughter. Am I really being selfish here? I know at first her help will be invaluable, and I accept that. But she's so eager to meet the baby, I feel that I'm being forgotten. Never mind the fact I'm the one carrying him etc, I'm just feeling completely "un-essential". If it was my parents and my partners as well doing it, I'd understand and probably come to the conclusion that this is what happens at the end of pregnancy, this being my first. But it's just my mum, and it's driving my up the wall!
Anyone experiencing anything similar? Or have any advice?
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