Becksie is 24 and trying for her second child with her husband. She miscarried twice this year
Hannah_89 has just graduated from university and is excited to be expecting twins, though her pregnancy came as a shock
LittleAngel is happy to be expecting a health baby despite her concerns about her anti-epileptic drugs
yummymummy42 is expecting her fourth baby at 42. It's come as a very happy surprise!
Booa26 was told she may never conceive due to her PCOS, but is expecting her first child at the end of the year
seren1 is expecting her second child on Christmas Day and suffers from antenatal depression
Busielizzie has had a 'perfect morning sickness-free first 12 weeks'
annatd is currently living with her husband in Egypt but hopes to give birth to 'falafel' in the UK
louise19 found out she was pregnant a week after breaking up with her boyfriend
Pea Pod doesn't feel like an 'older mum' (she's 37). She's just over halfway and starting to show
littlegreen is 33 and excited, while feeling alternately stressed and lethargic
Ruthie1989 is 21, expecting her first, and feeling tired and sick, but still excited
Zoe2001 is expecting twins following IVF
rhi1983 is excited/terrified now she's finally started 'multiplying' with her partner
Mumsy147 is considering buying an Angelsounds heart doppler so she can listen to her baby's heartbeat
lydiamcnitosh26 knows she's having a boy and has called him George
crazy caz is 22, a university student and still wondering how to feel about her news
1sttimer was stunned to find out she was pregnant because she'd had a period
Mumatron is pregnant for the 4th time but has had 2 previous miscarriages
Oxiana had given up on conceiving because of PCOS and 2 previous miscarriages
Donnabird is symptom free so far in her first pregnancy
mummy2bee wishes she had a personal scan machine so she could look at her baby all the time SophC had spent her entire adult life convinced she'd never have children
KittyD is due in June and wants to have a water birth
RBall aka Becci is 'approaching 40, expecting her first baby, surprised and quite worried'
Fayebe is pregnant again after 8 years of trying and a big effort to lose weight
blueeric2002 gave birth to 6lb 7oz Isolde in early July. Read about her as she grows, on Birth to Five
Jen Staves has found it a bit weird to not have pregnancy symptoms such as nausea and vomiting
Peri is 25, in her first year at university and expecting her first in September
Lilegg is keeping mum about her pregnancy until she's reached 12 weeks
Hannah_W wants ideas on how she can keep her pregnancy secret, such as excuses for not drinking
xxxJenxxx aka Jennie has had a girl and a (very big) boy already and is expecting her third in September
Zelkina is expecting her first child and describes herself as 'terrified'
Kezdam is expecting her first child after one previous miscarriage. She's also HIV and Hep C positive
Rachelliverpool had Niall on 26th April. Read about the birth here
Sminkle is a couple of days further on than she thought she was. She's due in September
Saturday, 2 October 2010
Still waiting
Hello! This is my first Blog :)
Well hello!
My name is Becky and im 24 years old. I have been with my husband Jared 5 years, 4 of which married. I have a bouncing baby boy called Ethan who is turning 3 in December. It's gone so quick!
At the beginning of the year we decided we wanted another baby and by the end of February i was estatic to find out i was pregnant. When i hit 13 weeks i felt something was wrong and found out i had miscarried. The little one was only 8+3 weeks. We were advised to wait 3 periods before trying again, which we did.
In August we started trying again and i found out again that i was pregnant. Yet it was to be short lived, miscarrying a week later. It has been disappointing and heartbreaking year for us, but i won't be put off! We are trying again now and hopefully will have some news to share with you other bloggers over the next few weeks.
I know that it might happen again, and if it does, come what may. Please blow your baby dust my way! :D
Becky :)
”The Home Stretch
Hello all! Been a while since i last made a post, I know, so here's how I've been.
Finaly went on maternity leave on the 1st of August. But far from relaxing, it's actualy been a stressfull time. My partner was made redundant in June, and ever since i went on maternity leave I've been panicing and stressing about what was going tohappen when my maternity pay dropped down to the statutory maternity pay. I've been in tears almost all the time, even going so far as to snap at my partner and mum on one occasion (i havent yelled at my partner once throughout the entire pregnancy, or before it for that matter). But joy of joys, he was lucky enough to get a job on Friday last week, and is at his first day today. Although it's a little unsettling that I'm on my own in the flat after having him here for the past month.
We had a wonderfull time in Looe, Cornwall with my partners friends over the bank holiday, I think the break was just what we both needed. Even the bump seemed a little more relaxed, although he definately gave me greif for all the hills in Looe! We had the baby tings packed in the back of the car, just in case he decided to come early. Needless to say, I had alot of people instructing me to keep my legs closed till we got home, or joking about that being the reason we were headed to Cornwall in the first place, after the PM's wife gave birth there.
Now we're home, things are coming together. We have the moses basket set up, a brand new wardrobe just full of baby clothes, a new changing table from my mum which is currently housing all the baby stuff like nappies, lotions, creams, etc. Now we're just waiting...albeit somewhat impatiently, for him to arrive. Family members are placing bets on when he will arrive. So far we have the 8th,11th and 22nd of September, and 10th of October, aside from the official due date of the 8th October. Part of me impatiently wants him to arrive so we can at last meet him, the other half wants him to stay put for as long as possible so we know he'll be fine when i do give birth. We've been told he's a little on the small side, but as partner and I were small babies, we were kinda expecting it. No swelling ankles yet, no popped outbelly button, apart from a teeny bit of swelling in my hands that's all the swelling ive got. I'm on weekly anti natal appointments now, so they can keep a close eye on me. But for now, it's just sit and wait till he arrives, when he decides to come.
Zel xxx
”39 weeks and still waiting
The header says it all. Tomorrow I will be 39 weeks pregnant and I'm still waiting. I'm my my third week off work and can't do very much physically apart from limp around the house very slowly. I overdid things in my first week off and hurt my back a bit moving furniture, so now I tend to spend my days sitting around or driving off to places, as I can't walk very far at all.
Things are getting pretty uncomfortable by now. It's hard moving as walking is painful - and I have that inelegant waddle now. I find my hips start to ache if I lie on one side for any length of time, the carpal tunnel is getting worse, I need to get up and go to the loo in the night and more in the day, I have heartburn, can't bend down to put things in cupboards or get dressed easily and don't sleep very well.And as for getting out of bed or from a low chair - I feel like a beached whale trying to lift myself.
On the other hand, all is well otherwise. My blood pressure was 110/65 at the midwife appointment on Monday (saw yet another different midwife), bump is OK, baby is active and its heartbeat fine. I got my iron results from a month ago and my levels had actually increased - and that's without taking any supplements! The head is just 3/5 engaged and no indications of anything happening - no show or other signs of labour. I've started to have a few Braxton Hicks but again very low key. So at the moment my body seems to be fine about the pregnancy, it's just me feeling sorry for myself about the lack of mobility and physical flexibility.
Things might change tomorrow. Unless there are any main indications against it, I'm going on a solo round trip of about 90 miles to a funeral. I'll make sure my hospital bag and my notes are in the car, but feel quite intrepid! The midwife said it would be fine and I'm quite happy to go, as long as I can park easily when I get there. I've been getting a little bored with how small my world has become especially as we haven't had a main holiday this year (we always go in early September and that isn't exactly an option now). it's also still strange not to be at work: most of my friends work full-time and I got on very well with my colleagues in the workplace, so I'm missing that social interaction and general busy-ness - there's still enough electronic communication, but after over 20 years of working in universities it feels very strange to be out of that environment at the start of an academic year. I have started to make dates to see people - lunches, afternoon tea, post-work drinks (I watch someone else drink alcohol) and have enjoyed that, and just mooching in coffee shops without having to rush somewhere else, so it's not miserable, just very different. I haven't been so relaxed for years and just being at home for longer has meant I've got several odd jobs sorted out that are hard to fix when you're at work all day.
I'll post again next week, unless there is the major development...
”Friday, 1 October 2010
Weight Loss Concern
Hiya,
I have been losing weight since I became pregnant, I'm 23 weeks now and I have lost 3 stone in weight!
I'm eating and eating my fiancee even comments about the bottomless pit of a stomach I have developed
but still I'm losing weight. I'm having days where I get on the scales and I'm 6-8lbs heavier but give it 2-3
days and I'm back down in weight. At first I thought the rapid drop in weight was just eating healthier and not
drinking (cider being the beverage of choice) but a lot of my friends think I should get this checked as not
gaining or keeping weight on could be an issue with the baby or something up with me. I've had my 20 week
scan, everything healthy and everyday it feels like my baby is doing gymnastics inside of me, I'm starting to
chew if the baby is having weight trouble or if my medication or myself is the cause. I'm also extremely exhausted
everyday I expected this but everyone is so surprised.
I'm at the midwife a week on tuesday and will mention it but was wondering if anyone had or is having similar
trouble and could help me out or if anyone can help shed some light.
x
”7 weeks to go and still feeling normal...
Hi All,
It has been a while since I have posted and I attempted to post one last week, but haven't got a clue where it has gone, so time to start again :-)
Just wanted to say I have enjoyed reading all your blogs over the past couple of weeks, especially with the new arrivals. Oxiana, good luck, I hope your baby comes soon!
Since my last post a few things have happened:
I had a scare when I hadn't felt the baby move for a day. I was at work and decided to call the midwife who told me to go to my nearest hospital to get checked out as I work in Central London and my hospital is around 2 hours away in Surrey. My manager came with me in a taxi to the closest hospital, and I was under the illusion that central London hospitals are likely to be the best ones - I was completely wrong. I can honestly say it was the worst experience of my life and I would rather make the 2 hour journey home to my hospital than be taken to the hospital that we went to. On arrival we had to wait for the midwife to talk to us in reception because she was too busy trying to impress a bunch of executive board members. When she did finally take the time out to see me, she had the worst attitude I have ever been subjected to. I explained that I hadn't felt the baby move and that I had been advised by my midwife to go there and get checked out. She just looked at me, sniggered and said "Unless you're bleeding or dying there's nothing I can do for you, you have to go to your own hospital." I took a deep breath and explained that my hospital was 2 hours away and reiterated the fact that my midwife had advised me to go there.. she then repeated "there's nothing I can do for you, I don't know who you are, so you need to go to your hospital where they know you". If it wasn't for the fact that I was concerned about my baby I would have given her a piece of my mind but I just made the journey back to Surrey. My partner met me half way and took me to my hospital where I was seen instantly, the baby's heartbeat was monitored and I was instantly reassured that my baby was fine. The midwife also confirmed that the central London hospital were wrong for not seeing me, and all they had to do was at least listen for a heartbeat. I was totally shocked by the difference between my hospital and the one I had visited, and the pure fact that the midwife showed little, if no compassion - it baffled me. But the main thing is baby is ok. A word of advice for all mums, if you can, try and carry your medical notes with you if you work far from your hospital as it may help to get seen by a different hospital... as long as its not the one I visited!
On a better note, it was my birthday 2 weeks ago and I turned 23. I had a nice relaxing day and long weekend as it fell on a Friday so I took a much needed day off work. I spent the morning at home with my mum where she went through her yearly ritual of telling me what stage she was at throughout the day 23 years ago. It was good to hear it this year as it gave me an insight into what I will be subjected to in less than two months.... eeek! My boyfriend then took my mum and I to lunch which was nice and the rest of the day was spent relaxing and getting pampered. I noticed that everyone made a conscious effort to get me presents rather than for the baby, it made me laugh as I would have been happy either way. My parents also finished decorating my room and there are now allocated spaces and storage for baby. Even though I will be moving out in Jan/Feb, my parents were adamant that my room was redone for the baby's arrival as we hadn't decorated my room since we moved in 3/4 years ago. They also made a point to get me blackout curtains which I am taking full advantage of at the weekends when I get better lie ins... although its more for the baby.
I am still working full time. I was initially due to finish in 3 weeks time and take the 4 weeks off before the baby as holiday before my maternity pay kicked in. But then I worked out my maternity pay and was shocked by the drastic drop that I decided to not take all of my holiday and get paid for it instead as it equates to an extra months pay. So I am now due to work up until the 29th October... and baby is due on 7th November. My manager has made it clear that if I need to leave any earlier then I can, which is good to know, but at the moment I am fine, and sometimes forget I am even pregnant.. which everyone finds weird. They have started looking for my replacement who will start next month so I will have a few weeks handover period with them which I think my team are really happy about.
I had my 32 week scan on Thursday and the baby has now turned round and is head down. S/he is still growing nicely, and is the middle of average for all measurements. We managed to catch a glimpse of baby sucking its thumb which was so cute. It was the first proper opportunity we had to find out the sex as for once the baby was awake but although my partner wanted to know, I still didn't want to know and mother's word is final so the sonographer didn't even look. However, during our shopping trip that afternoon my partner made a point to highlight how we were limited in the amount of clothes we could buy because everything is pink and blue in the shops... however I still managed to spend £60 in H&M on cute unisex outfits. As well as clothes we got a moses basket and rocking stand, a bumper packet of baby wipes and a plastic bed sheet for when my waters break. We could barely shut the boot on my little hatchback by the time we finished, but it felt good to finally start buying things, it makes it more real as I still don't think it has hit me that I am having a baby.
I think that is about all so far. I have given up dairy to decrease the risk of the baby getting eczema. So I am now having soya milk in my tea and cereal and no more chocolate. The baby is becoming more and more active and I am finding it fun to see my belly moving with the baby. I just can't wait to meet him or her, to see what s/he looks like, acts like and to just officially get the mummy title. I will be going to antenatal classes in the next couple of weeks so I am looking forward to meeting other mums who are the same stage as me, because at the moment all of my friends either had their kids 3 to 4 years ago, or are living the single, care free lifestyle lol.
Anyway on that note I am going to get ready for another early Monday at work and eat some ice cubes because I am so hot right now lol!
I hope you are all well and coping with your pregnancies and good luck to those due in the next few weeks.
Take Care,
C xx
”How to deal with an over eager Grandmother to be?
Hello all.
As I write this im currently 37 + 4, and I need your advice! let me explain. I'm the oldest, and only girl in the family. For the past 4 years, I've always told my mother that I never intended to have children, and didn't want children. Of course that all changed when I met my partner. My partner's family, while overjoyed, have been pretty laid back about the whole thing. This is the first grandchild for my mum, and partners parents, so I can understand that they are eager to meet the little man when he finaly gets here. But it's my mum that is driving me up the wall!
Since the start of september, almost every day, via Facebook, text message, msn, you name it, I constantly get asked "had any pains yet? Getting any pains yet?" Almost always preceeding any kind of "hello, how are you?" It's gotten to the point where I've had to tell mum off for constantly asking. It stopped for about a week after i did that, then sunday night, she was telling my partner to make me eat/drink/do this that and the other to bring the labour on. As I told my partner, I'm not doing anything of the sort, and she can wait till little man decides he's good and ready to arrive.
Thing is, (and I'm aware this may come off a little selfish here, and I'm probably just ranting, but oh well) If it wasn't for the fact I'm having her grandchild, she wouldn't actually be that bothered. I moved out of home about 2/3 years ago, at first living with a friend and he parents. (i'd moved in to a hotel where i was working at the time, the hotel shut and i ended up on mum's sofa) and for the last year and a half in my own place. My mum never comes to see me, except on her birthday, and once because she happened to be in the area. My friends house was literally a minutes walk away from one of mum's friends and mum never once came to see me there. If i want to see my mum, I have to go up to hers.
What's concerning me the most is this. Once the baby gets here, I'm pretty sure the visits will suddenly start getting more and more frequent. And that upsets me, because I know its just because of the baby that she will be visiting, not coming to see her daughter. Am I really being selfish here? I know at first her help will be invaluable, and I accept that. But she's so eager to meet the baby, I feel that I'm being forgotten. Never mind the fact I'm the one carrying him etc, I'm just feeling completely "un-essential". If it was my parents and my partners as well doing it, I'd understand and probably come to the conclusion that this is what happens at the end of pregnancy, this being my first. But it's just my mum, and it's driving my up the wall!
Anyone experiencing anything similar? Or have any advice?
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